Find Me A Stage, I have Something To Say — MED

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something to Say —MED
October 4, 2018

Civility, The Word Of The Week

Civility, the action of being courteous!!! At least that is how I would define this term. Observing the actions of our President this past week, I would not use civility or any synonym of this word to describe his actions. The President berated Dr. Bleasy Ford at a political rally, inexcusable. He also insulted a female ABC political reporter at the press conference for the new trade agreement. I am paraphrasing his words but he basically told the reporter she had no idea what she was doing. Leading the reporter to say in a stern voice, “Excuse me” to the President. He covered with a quip that he chuckled and she proceeded to ask an informed question. This played out on the network broadcast. As President, I believe you are expected to be a leader, a role model. Despite your opinion certain commentaries should be left unsaid. No need to be nasty when no one is exhibiting that behavior toward you. Civility!

I think everyone would agree that you can have different views on issues and still get along. There is no need to berate anyone whether in a public forum, in school hallways, board rooms or in your neighbor’s driveway. There was a news clip running last night of parents at a children’s football game arguing into a full out brawl. Bad example set for your kids Dads and Moms. It is a game and nothing else. Check your baggage at the curb and enjoy the triumphs of all the young children on the field. Teach by example, express civility!

It starts right on the playing field as kids and carries through life. Those lessons of kindness, fairness, good sportsmanship are learned young. Once they are learned and reinforced you have civility in action. The country does not need the President of the United States offending citizens. Stop being offensive and clean up your act!!! You will gain so much more respect.

Thank you for your time. Hope your level awareness was raised.

The words shared above are my express opinion upon watching the October 4, 2018 morning news shows. My words are meant to raise a level of awareness not malice.

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something To Say — MED

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something to Say —MED
October 1, 2018

Breast Cancer Awareness

Fall has really begun in the Northeast! There is a chill in the air and the leaves are painting a beautiful landscape. Change is upon us. Even in the halls of our government. I feel the #metoo Movement has arrived. The pleas of a single woman to a senator have affected the Supreme Court Confirmation Hearings. I applaud that woman for her courage.

As women have been harassed, assaulted, not paid fairly etc. what stands out is that we are someone’s daughter, sister, wife and mother. Why are we treated the way we are and why do we accept this treatment. The time is up; I feel women will begin to stand up more because they are listened too. We have won a small victory.

It is Breast Cancer Awareness month. Imagine if women spoke out collectively to get better coverage for all of us and more funding to find a cure. Women should be diligent about having mammograms and also encouraging our sisters to get one too. Many women have no insurance coverage. We should do better. There should be funding!!! We should also have more funding to forward advancements in breast cancer care and the foundation for a cure.

Come on ladies, this is our rallying cry. Let’s treat ourselves better and expect better care for all.

Thank you for your time. Hope your level awareness was raised.

The words shared above are my express opinion upon watching the October 1, 2018 morning news shows. My words are meant to raise a level of awareness not malice.

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Find Me A Stage, I Have Something to Say —MED
September 27, 2018

My Voting Story

As I watch the senate confirmation hearing this morning I am struck by the age of the confirmation committee members. I am so respectful of aging Americans but the faces I see do not represent me nor did they 36 years ago. I may agree / disagree with their politics but I would prefer a better mix of ages / backgrounds / gender. They are listening and weighing in on a vote that will affect the coming generation perhaps they should have some younger faces: representative of the citizens the future Supreme Court decisions will affect.

We are looking at the same faces of the Dr. Anita Hill / Clarence Thomas hearings only aged. The only way to change the political landscape is to vote. I wanted to share my voting story and encourage others to do the same. Some background before I share. I was raised in an American Irish Catholic Family. Politics were discussed and debated on various occasions. Each election day I would join my parents as they voted although far too young to vote. My first introduction into sharing my political views was a discussion with my Mom. Mom would generally speak with my Dad and they would decide who they would vote for on any given election. When I was in High School my Mom asked who I would vote for in a local election. This started an ongoing dialogue that I have found to be a common sharing of respected opinions. I have cherished this dialogue between the two of us. We have agreed, disagreed but respected each other’s views. What a joy! Someone to share politics in a respected conversation; my Dad does not necessarily share my political views at times. We lock horns respectfully. Now as a parent, I talk to my own children about politics with esteem not negativity. I want to hear what they have to say, thank you Mom for teaching me, I want them to vote for their convictions. I also took them with me to vote as kids. I wanted them to learn my example.

A true confession, I did not register to vote until I graduated from college. Sadly, a fellow student was called to jury duty and the professors would not work with her. It affected her grade. I felt I could not jeopardize my academic standing. This incident was probably boarding on illegal behavior but I was too scared!!! As soon as I graduated, I registered to vote! This right as a citizen I hold dear. Over 11 years of teaching, I encouraged my students to vote. It is their right too. I strongly feel if you do not vote you should not complain. You gave up your right to complain when you made the choice not to vote.
Thank you for your time. Hope your level awareness was raised.

The words shared above are my express opinion upon watching the September 27, 2018 morning news shows. My words are meant to raise a level of awareness not malice.

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something To Say — MED

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something to Say —MED
September 26, 2018

Respect and Laughter

This week the President of the United States addressed the General Assemble of the United Nations. The world leaders laughed at our President. Although the world leaders may not agree with President Trump, I feel, there needs to be a level of respect for the position he holds. Honestly if the President of the United States laughed at another world leader this would be probably received as a major insult. Why is the reverse acceptable, it should not be? As leaders collectively they set an example. The civility should rule for all leaders. We expect our children to not bully, be respectful and express civility. This was a teachable moment. World leaders you can do better and we expect better of all of you. Help the next generation leader to be leaders. Disagreement is human nature and makes our world continue. Negoiation and debate our crafted skills. Our children need to observe these skills. Please stop the laughter and bullying on the world stage. Lead by example!

Thank you for your time. Hope your level awareness was raised.

The words shared above are my express opinion upon watching the September 26, 2018 morning news shows. My words are meant to raise a level of awareness not malice.

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something To Say — MED

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something to Say —MED
September 25, 2018

National Register to Vote Day

With all the morning news shows consumed with the Supreme Court Confirmation Hearings and the United Nations General Assembly Meetings a bonus mention on a local NYC station caught my attention. Today is apparently National Register to Vote Day. This topic should be an hour segment on every news station in my opinion. Voting, as American citizens, is out right!!! We need to vote. One of the reasons our legislatures become career legislatures is because no one bothers to vote. It is so easy, register. Do your research whether online, talking to friends / family, or reading / watching the news. Go and vote in November. If you want your, voice heard than do not sit on the couch and complain, get up and register. There are very few reasonable excuses not to register. I cannot stress enough it is your right!!! I vote!

People are playing armchair quarterback and water cooler commentator but that is not good enough. We as citizens deserve more. Get involved and vote.

Thank you for your time. Hope your level awareness was raised.

The words shared above are my express opinion upon watching the September 25, 2018 morning news shows. My words are meant to raise a level of awareness not malice.

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something To Say — MED

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something to Say
September 24, 2018

Boys Will Be Boys

What a weekend of news surrounding the Supreme Court Confirmation hearing! More accusers have stepped forward. My personal take is that everyone needs to step back and vet the allegations before continuing the Confirmation hearing. There are calls for investigations, political accusations being levied and bipartisan criticisms flowing like a river. Toss in the comments on the Tweeter sphere and this is regrettable on multiple levels.

The behavior in question is not just on the national stage. I recently found myself sitting across the desk from a Human Resources Manager of a former employer. I had walked through an open door asking to talk for a few moments. I stated my concerns after witnessing several of the males assigned cubicles in hearing distance from mine mouthing off. In a few months time I had listened to racial slurs, sexist comments, cursing at its best and a round of jokes about the NYC Gay Pride Parade. At first I just ignored it but after a particular week of comments and a reference to women as pigs I had had enough. If I was insulted I felt that others in proximity were possibly insulted too. I relayed my concerns to the HR Manager. What surprised me was the comment I received in response to my concerns, “boys will be boys”. Perhaps she did not hear me; perhaps it was my calm demeanor that generated this absurd response. The atmosphere this group of employees was creating was uncomfortable, not appropriate and of no benefit to the company. At the very least investigate what was going on. By saying Boys will be Boys lead me to believe she was well aware of the said behavior but was not willing to deal with it. I did not follow through with what would be done; it felt like I was not being listened too. I received my answer the a few days later that something had been said. One of the bullies / ring leaders made an inappropriate comment and another yelled out, “Watch what you say”. Wow! Now they were inappropriate and sending me a backhanded insult. Prior to my HR conversation I had witnessed one of the offenders get upset, turn bright red, pound his first on his desk and yell fuck repeatedly. He was forceful and I have no idea what prompted this episode but it left me wondering if this anger could be targeted physically against a coworker. I listened to this nonsense until as a professional I could not put up with such disrespect. This behavior along with a few other factors played into my decision to resign. I have been through Boys being Boys before; I am at a point in my life where I can choose not to put up with it.

My feeling, they should have lost their jobs, apparently this behavior was allowed to be exhibited for years. I was not the first to complain nor am I sure I will be the last to complain. I asked several of my coworkers why they accepted this behavior. Their answers were not surprising, they were fearful of losing their job. How disconcerting that biases behavior boarding on illegal wins out because employees were in fearful. They have bills to pay, they are close to retirement, they have kids to feed, college tuition to pay, and jeopardizing an income was not an option. How could this be in 2018!! We can do better!! The Boys will be Boys atmosphere proliferates. Frustrating but true, why? Now we are seeing alleged Boys will be Boys behavior played out on a national level.

This leaves me feeling what can be done to stop it on a personal level, in the work place and in are elected office as well as in schools. Leaders I feel should lead by example. I do not think there is any one answer to solve this remarkable challenge, the excuse Boys will be Boys should be retired promptly.

Thank you for your time. Hope your level awareness was raised.

The words shared above are my express opinion upon watching the September 24, 2018 morning news shows. My words are meant to raise a level of awareness not malice.

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something To Say —MED

I am part of everything I read. — Theodore Roosevelt

Find Me A Stage, I Have Something To Say —MED
September 20, 2018

To Friendship

Lazy morning, I was late to the table today. The news I did view was more of the same topics progressing all week. One moment did touch me. Ms. Megyn Kelly did a segment of a courageous friend that passed away. It was a poignant tribute. My mind wondered to the sadness that surrounds the passing of a friend. There is an old saying that friends can be like family. I would go one step further, they are better at times because you get to pick them. When we experience this loss we step into our friend’s family. We become the shepherd of their history with us. To share with whom they have left behind.

I am drawn to the memory of my husband’s longtime friend PF, a genuine nice guy and gentleman. PF was only in my life a few years but it felt as if we had known each other forever along with his wife MB. We just clicked. When we went to his viewing years ago, I started crying in the parking lot before entering the funeral home. Your laughter with MB, your beautiful blue eyes, your ribbing of friends and your love of your kids filled our hearts. How could you not be here but be everywhere at once? We are now many years after your passing, time has flown by and the kids are adults. MB still has a sparkle in her eyes and your memories live on. Ron always speaks of you with a big smile; he had his men always blow the horn when they passed your house so the kids could smile until the day he retired. I can say as many of us can, Ms. Kelly I am empathic to your sadness. There are times we need to step back from what is going on around us and just say goodbye to a worthwhile person in our life. PF, I am going to hold you to your promise when we meet again. We are going to speed down a highway in the afterlife in a brand new Hummer with Ron and MB!!!!! May not be Route 80 but we will have fun.

As I am typing this piece, the news is that there is yet another mass shooting occurring morning. Early reports are 5 people may be dead. They, like our friend PF, are someone’s friend, child, spouse and parent. I pray for them.

Tomorrow I am having breakfast with an old friend I cherish. Cherish your friends. They have come into your life for a reason, embrace them. Have a great weekend.

Thank you for your time. Hope your level awareness was raised.

The words shared above are my express opinion upon watching the September 20, 2018 morning news shows. My words are meant to raise a level of awareness not malice.